对话拥有七个孩子的美国成功人士


前言

今天要讨论的人是我的一个美国外教,他是个美国人,但现在住在墨西哥,拥有七个孩子(第一次听他说的时候我直接震惊了,连着确认了好几遍)。最大的那个孩子跟我差不多大,最小的孩子应该三岁左右。

听他说自己年轻的时候挣了很多钱,之前是运动员(比较出色的那种),也成立过超过三十家公司(同样很成功),拥有丰富的阅历。由于之前过于努力,他跟我说现在只想放慢生活,好好享受接下来的人生,写写书、教育孩子,有机会的话能做一些改变世界的事情。无论哪方面(运动员、创业、家庭、健康等等)我都觉得他算是一个成功人士,所以我对他很是佩服。

记录的初衷

我跟他之间进行了一些颇有启发的对话,其中涉及到创业、营销、人生哲学、个人理想、运动、音乐、个人习惯、阅读等等各方面的话题。尽管我们的对话到目前为止仅仅进行了五次,而且总时长不过2.5小时,但是在这2.5小时内我从他身上学到了很多东西,具体学到了什么,现在回过头想想,其实只记住一些零零碎碎的东西,可能一部分已经融化在血液里面,像是我曾经读过的书一般。

而通过书写的形式记录下来,对我而言,是一个重新思考的过程,我对这个过程已经慢慢上瘾了。所以想记录下跟他之间的对话以及一些很有意思的话题探讨,重温从他身上学到的东西。

第一次对话(2023年5月19日)

我是在一个英语平台上认识的他,我看了下我们的视频对话记录。第一次的对话发生在2023年5月19日。那时候我想学习一些营销类的东西,看到他的简历写着拥有四十年的营销、销售经验,所以毫不犹豫地预约了他的课程。后来我才知道,他的人生阅历比我想象中的还要丰富。


Rolen: 你有着丰富的营销经验,你觉得什么是营销呢?

Markting is the ability to get someone’s attention. So they have an interest in your product or your service. That is really all it is. And what’s really helped me with marketing over the years is the understanding I have of psychology and human behavior. Because I understand the human behavior and psychology so I’m able to create content, advertising, marketing, propaganda that is able to get people’s attention, exspecially the attention of my target market.

Who are the people most likely to enjoy want, desire, or need your product? And one of the key things in marketing is understanding who are the people that you are looking for. But there’s also something that a lot of people skip over is they don’t understand their competition. So you should always understand what your competitors are doing to market. their products or services, especially if they are similar or you know exactly like yours and then you have to understand what are the barriers to you getting their attention.

Marketing is doing more of what works and less of what doesn’t work, that’s it. Marketing is a never-ending mystery, you are always trying to figure out what to do next.

Chat GPT翻译:

营销是吸引某人的注意力的能力,以便他们对你的产品或服务产生兴趣。这就是全部。

在多年的营销经验中,真正帮助我取得成功的是我对心理学和人类行为的理解。因为我理解人类行为和心理学,所以我能够创建能够吸引人们注意力的内容、广告、营销和宣传,尤其是我目标市场的注意力。

最有可能享受、想要、渴望或需要你的产品的人是谁?在营销中的一个关键要点就是了解你正在寻找的人群。但很多人经常忽略的一点是,他们不了解竞争对手。因此,你应该始终了解你的竞争对手在营销上做了什么,特别是如果他们的产品或服务与你的相似或几乎一样,然后你必须了解阻止你吸引他们注意力的障碍是什么。

营销就是多做有效的事情,少做无效的事情,就是这样。营销是一个永无止境的谜题,你总是在努力弄清楚下一步该做什么。

美国外教

Rolen总结:了解你的受众,了解你的产品,了解你的竞争对手,了解行为心理学,做独一无二的事,多做有效的事情,少做无效的事情。(有效和无效的事情需要通过不断测试才能得出结论,这是一个动态变化的过程,也许几年前的东西放在现在无效了,但是几十年前的东西放到现在又有效了)


Rolen根据你这么多年的经验,你觉得营销中什么最难呢?

The hard part now is to get their attention and keep their attention to get them engaged, to get them to click through, to get them to go into a sales funnel, and then to convert them to customers that process takes feedback. So that’s where analytics come into play. Analytics are a very very important part of marketing. And the barrier is creating all of the content that is necessary. So there’s a creative element to marketing so not only is there you know analytic and a strategic methodology that you follow but you have to be creative in the content.

Chat GPT翻译:

现在的难点是吸引他们的注意力并保持他们的关注,以便让他们参与进来,点击链接,进入销售渠道,然后将他们转化为客户,这个过程需要反馈。这就是分析的作用。分析在营销中是非常非常重要的一部分。而障碍就是创建所有必要的内容。因此,营销中有创造性的元素,不仅有你知道的分析和战略方法,你还必须在内容上有创意。

美国外教

Rolen总结:抓住人的注意力


Rolen你平常是怎么学习一些新事物的呢?

I’m always reading new books and watching videos on YouTube and I learn from my experience I mean that is the main way I learn is because I just do a lot of testing.

Chat GPT翻译:

我经常阅读新书,观看YouTube上的视频,并从我的经验中学习,我是说这是我学习的主要方式,因为我会进行大量的测试。

美国外教


Rolen我很好奇你有一些失败的经历吗?

Many many failures and that’s why I believe that I’m a good resource now. Because I’ve made a lot of mistakes and I’ve learned a lot of lessons and when you do that you become wise.

Chat GPT翻译:

经历了许多许多次失败,这就是为什么我相信自己现在是一个很好的资源。因为我犯了很多错误,吸取了很多教训,当你这样做时,你变得更加智慧。

美国外教


Rolen可以分享下你遭遇过最大的失败吗?

One of my biggest because I’ve had something one of my biggest failures is I got involved with an Imaging company that did brain Imaging and it’s a very expensive business to be in. It costs a lot of money so I invested a lot of money a lot of money and I went out and I found a bunch of investors some of which were my family and my friends and I got them to invest and long story short my business partner was a crook and he stole all the money and we all we all lost all of our money we’re all lost millions of dollars millions of. That’s one of the first pieces of advice I give people I’m like choose your partners wisely do your research do background checks see the thing is I didn’t do a background check on this guy and if I had I would have found out that he had a history and and I could have avoided the problem but I didn’t.

Chat GPT翻译:

我最大的失败之一是涉足了一家进行脑成像的影像公司,这是一项非常昂贵的业务。它需要大量的资金,所以我投入了大量的钱,找到了一些投资者,其中一些是我的家人和朋友,我让他们投资了。长话短说,我的商业合伙人是个骗子,他偷走了所有的钱,我们都亏了大钱,损失了数百万美元,数百万美元。这是我给人们的第一个建议之一,我说要明智地选择你的合作伙伴,进行研究,进行背景调查。问题是,我没有对这个人进行背景调查,如果我做了,我就会发现他有不良记录,我本可以避免这个问题,但我没有这样做。

美国外教


第二次对话(2023年5月22日)

Rolen你为什么会想要七个孩子呢,对于一般人而言这不是件容易的事情

  1. I’m a very realistic person when it comes to life. You’re put on this planet to do one thing. It is not to be a good businessman it’s not to be a good salesman you’re put on this planet to do one thing that’s to make another life that’s your only purpose because if you don’t do that well then your genetic material never gets carried on. I think it’s your only purpose so that’s one reason why I had a bunch of kids because I wanted. Because I’ve been a very good athlete I’m smart I’m intuitive I have a lot of talents and I wanted to pass those genes on to Future Generations because I believe that will benefit Humanity that’s one reason
  2. I just love kids I love kids and I love seeing them grow and develop and mature it’s amazing it’s the best thing in the world
  3. I also love the fact that I’ve had the opportunity to be in love and to want to have a family like that with somebody that’s important too

Chat GPT翻译:

  1. 我是一个非常现实的人,当涉及到生活时。你来到这个星球上只是为了做一件事。这并不是成为一个优秀的商人,也不是成为一个优秀的销售员,你来到这个星球上只有一个目的,那就是创造新的生命,这是你唯一的目的,因为如果你在这方面做得不好,你的遗传物质就永远不会传承下去。我认为这是你唯一的目的,这也是为什么我有了一群孩子的原因,因为我想要。因为我一直是一个很好的运动员,我聪明,直觉敏锐,有很多才能,我想把这些基因传给未来的一代,因为我相信这会造福人类,这也是一个原因。
  2. 我只是喜欢孩子,我喜欢孩子,我喜欢看着他们成长、发展和成熟,这是令人惊叹的,是世界上最美好的事情之一。
  3. 我还喜欢有机会坠入爱河,渴望和某人一起建立一个家庭,这也很重要。

美国外教

Rolen总结:想传承优良基因造福人类+单纯喜欢孩子+因为爱情


Rolen我可以听听你将来想做的事或者梦想之类的吗?

I’m old I don’t have big dreams anymore. My Big Dreams were when I was your age. When I was your age I had big big dreams and I accomplished some of them. Some of them I didn’t. But now I don’t have a big dream my dream is to slow down my dream is to not achieve So Much Anymore my dream is not to work so hard my dream is to spend time with my family my dream is to have a bunch of dogs and cats and take care of them and I just truly want to just relax and enjoy the rest of my life because I’ve been very busy and I’ve worked very very hard my whole life

Just now it’s time for me to just relax a little bit and not work so hard so now I’m right I’m writing books um I’m creating videos I’m creating things that are going to be here after I’m gone so when I’m gone people can read my book When I’m Gone people can watch my videos when I’m gone people can see my children because I’m going to be gone in the next 30 years minimum probably sooner than that but I’ll be gone in 10 20 30 years somewhere in there I’ll be gone for sure. I mean what frustrates me about people when I see them just taking up space they’re not trying to better the world they’re not trying to better themselves they’re not procreating they’re just selfish they just focus on themselves and they say oh I’m just gonna go on vacation here and I’m gonna go do this and I’m going to do that I’m gonna play video games whatever but they’re not doing anything to add to the world to try to make the world a better place and I think that that is one of our responsibilities is to try to make the world better for the next Generation.

Chat GPT翻译:

我已经老了,不再有大的梦想了。我的大梦想是在我像你这个年纪的时候。当我像你这个年纪的时候,我有很大的梦想,我实现了其中一些,但也有一些没有实现。但现在我没有大的梦想了,我的梦想是放慢脚步,不再那么努力工作,我的梦想是花更多时间与家人在一起,我的梦想是养一群狗和猫,照顾它们,我真的只想放松一下,享受余生,因为我一直很忙,一生都在努力工作。

现在是我放松一点,不再那么努力工作的时候了,所以现在我正在写书,我正在制作视频,我正在创造那些在我离世后仍然存在的东西,这样当我离世时,人们可以阅读我的书,观看我的视频,看到我的孩子,因为在未来的30年内,我肯定会离世,可能会更早,但在10、20、30年内,我肯定会离世。我对人们感到沮丧的地方在于,当我看到他们只是占用空间,他们不努力让世界变得更好,他们不努力让自己变得更好,他们不生育后代,他们只关心自己,他们说:“哦,我只是要去这里度假,我要去做这个,我要去做那个,我要玩视频游戏。” 但他们没有为增添世界的美好而付出努力,我认为这是我们的责任之一,要为下一代努力让这个世界变得更美好。

美国外教

Rolen总结:适当放慢脚步,同时做一些让世界更好的事情


Rolen我很久之前听过一段话,就是类似改变世界之前要改变自己,对此你怎么看呢?

Change yourself right. That’s like a Confucius or a proverb from Buddha or something like that right you know.

You should always want to improve yourself you should always want to be a better human being but do something that outlives you do something that lives do you do something that lives beyond your lifetime so I had seven children now if I die tomorrow I know that I’ve changed the world forever because I have seven of my children out there and they’re going to do things in the world that were for will forever change it right. Same thing with my businesses I’ve started a lot of businesses because of those businesses the world will never be the same because of my relationships with other people the world will never be the same so know that everything you do has an impact on the world and you have to make sure that you’re doing something deliberately to make sure that the world becomes a better place. Do your part right we all have that responsibility. Do your own pods and then either way it’ll change have an impact on to the world.

Chat GPT翻译:

改变自己,对,这就像是孔子或佛陀的一句格言一样。你应该始终希望改善自己,始终希望成为一个更好的人,但要做一些超越你生命的事情,要做一些能够延续下去的事情。我有七个孩子,如果我明天死了,我知道我已经永远改变了世界,因为我有七个孩子,他们会在世界上做出一些永远改变它的事情。同样,我的生意也是如此,我创办了很多企业,因为有了这些企业,世界永远都不会一样了,因为我与其他人的关系,世界也永远都不会一样了,所以要知道你所做的一切都会对世界产生影响,你必须确保你在刻意地做一些事情,以确保世界变得更美好。做出自己的贡献,我们都有这个责任。为世界贡献自己的一份力量,不管怎样,它都会对世界产生影响。

美国外教


美国外教When you think about those things tell me, what do you think is your biggest contribution to the world, what is it that you think is your gift something that you can do to make the world a better place (当你考虑这些事情时,告诉我,你认为你对世界最大的贡献是什么?你认为你的天赋是什么,可以做些什么来使世界变得更美好?)

我想在未来创造出一个高科技公司,类似OpenAI那样的。但我不认为自己目前有能力去做这样的事。

首先我要做的事情是拥有足够多的经验,这也正是我开始创业的原因。同时我跟很多人学习,跟那些阅历知识远在我之上的人学习,从他们身上获得一些洞见和经验,然后读很多的书,有意识地训练我的大脑。

Rolen

That’s very smart it’s very smart because we all need mentors we all need people that will lead us that will guide us that will take us in the right direction so that we can do our part when it’s time because when it’s time you have to get to a certain level you have to get to a certain level of awareness a certain level of knowledge a certain level of skill and when you get to those levels then you can change the world.

Chat GPT翻译:这非常聪明,因为我们都需要导师,我们都需要那些会引导我们、指导我们、把我们引向正确方向的人,这样我们在时机成熟时就能履行自己的责任。因为当时机成熟时,你必须达到一定的水平,你必须达到一定的觉悟水平、知识水平、技能水平,当你达到这些水平时,你就能改变世界。

美国外教

事实上,我从书上学了很多,以前我能每年读一百本书,但是我想我需要把这些书说出来,讲给别人听,但是我现在只是仅仅在读。

Rolen

You should do both you should do both should because I still read books I read books I talk to people but I’m listen to this. I’m almost 56 years old but I am still a student I’m still always learning from everybody I learned from you I learned from all of my students I learned from all my books I learned from all my experiences I learn from everything I learn always. That’s it too. I always are students.

Chat GPT翻译:

你应该两者都做,因为我仍然阅读书籍,我与人交流,但我也倾听。我快要56岁了,但我仍然是一个学生,我仍然一直从每个人那里学到东西,我从你那里学到了东西,我从所有我的学生那里学到了东西,我从所有的书籍那里学到了东西,我从所有的经验中学到了东西,我总是在学习。这也是重要的,我总是学生。

美国外教


Rolen你跟我说过在我这个年纪,你有过很多梦想,可以谈谈吗?

so when I was 28 years old I was already a millionaire I was a millionaire. But the reason why is because I got lucky I really did I got lucky.

I got into real estate at a very young age and I got into a real estate market that was very very hot so lots of people were buying. Lots of people were selling and the prices were going up really fast.

But because of that and because of my networking abilities my social skills I was able to turn that into you know several million dollars and I was young and I was rich and I thought life was easy life is easy. It’s easy to make money it’s easy to be rich.

But a couple years later I lost all that money I lost it all so then I had to go back to work again and I had to do it again but it was a different it was a different economy it was a different Market it was a different world and it was much harder.

But I did it again I was able to become wealthy again and then I lost it again. So then I had to do it again and doing it for the last time was really really really hard it was it was so much harder than before because it was a different economy a different world I was a different person and you know what you have to understand is that nothing in life is guaranteed except for taxes and death. The only things that are guaranteed in life you’re going to pay taxes and you’re gonna die that’s it that’s all you know okay everything else is left to chance.

So we have to take life as it comes and we have to adapt to it and we have to make sometimes very fast decisions sometimes we can make slow decisions but we have to be able to do both.

Anybody who told you that life is fair they lied to you there’s no such thing as fairness in life so I know people in my life right now that have hundreds of millions of dollars are they are smarter than me nope, have they worked harder than me nope, do they deserve more than me nope, but they still have a couple hundred million dollars and I don’t have that kind of wealth so why is that you know why because life isn’t fair it’s not fair.

So I know people in my life that have worked so much harder than me and they have nothing they have nothing I know people that are smarter than me that have nothing.

Chat GPT翻译:

当我28岁的时候,我已经是百万富翁了,我是个百万富翁。但原因是因为我很幸运,真的,我很幸运。

我很年轻就进入了房地产行业,而且我进入的市场非常火爆,很多人都在买房,很多人都在卖房,房价涨得非常快。

但正是因为这个,再加上我的社交能力和人际关系网,我能够把那些机会变成了数百万美元,我年轻而富有,我以为生活很容易,赚钱很容易,变富有也很容易。

但几年后,我失去了所有的钱,我失去了一切,然后我不得不重新开始工作,我不得不再次努力,但这是一个不同的经济环境,不同的市场,不同的世界,而且更加困难。

但我再次成功了,变得富有了,然后我又失去了。然后,我不得不再次开始,最后一次,真的非常非常困难,比以前更加困难,因为这是一个不同的经济环境,一个不同的世界,我也是一个不同的人。你必须明白生活中没有什么是肯定的,除了税收和死亡。生活中唯一肯定的事情就是你得交税,最终会死亡,这就是全部,其他一切都是未知的

所以我们必须接受生活如它所是,我们必须适应它,我们有时必须做出非常快速的决策,有时可以做出缓慢的决策,但我们必须能够两者兼备

任何告诉你生活是公平的人都在欺骗你,生活中没有所谓的公平。所以我现在认识的一些人有着数亿美元的财富,他们比我聪明吗?没有,他们比我努力吗?没有,他们比我应得更多吗?没有,但他们仍然拥有几亿美元,而我没有那样的财富,为什么呢?你知道为什么吗?因为生活不公平,生活不公平。

所以我认识的一些人比我努力工作,但他们一无所有,我认识的一些人比我聪明,但他们一无所有。

美国外教

Rolen不过我觉得成功和公平的定义根据每个人的定义是不一样的,比如我没有很多金钱,但我仍觉得自己很富足。

So here’s another one of my sayings right there.

(Wealth comes in many forms)

You’re right so you can have great relationships with your family you can have great relationships with your lover you can have great relationships with your parents and those make you rich you’re very rich you’re very blessed to have those are wonderful riches but if you’re looking at Monetary if you’re looking at physical success athletic success there are many definitions of success so if you say what is success I would say I don’t know what is success for you success for me is having a good relationship with my kids that’s one what is success for me success for me is being able to relax and have enough money to not have to work that’s success now does that mean I have a hundred billion dollars like Elon Musk no but when I look at Elon Musk I don’t want his life his life sucks his life sucks he works all the time man all the time even he got many money but all the time he works all the time and he’s getting fat and he’s looking unhealthy and I don’t think he’s any happier than I and I don’t think he’s any happier at all but he’s the richest man in the world.

Chat GPT翻译:

这是我另一个说法:财富有多种形式。

你说得对,财富可以体现在与家人的良好关系、与爱人的美满关系、与父母的亲密关系中,这些都使你变得富有,你非常富有,非常幸福拥有这些美好的财富。但如果你把财富看作金钱,如果你看作物质上的成功、体育上的成功,那么成功有很多定义。所以,如果你问成功是什么,我会说我不知道,成功对我来说是什么?成功对我来说就是与我的孩子们建立良好的关系,这是一个,成功对我来说就是能够放松,有足够的钱不必工作,这就是成功。这并不意味着我有像埃隆·马斯克那样的千亿身家,但当我看着埃隆·马斯克时,我不想要他的生活,他的生活很糟糕,他一直在工作,无时无刻,甚至他赚了很多钱,但他一直在工作,他变得肥胖,看起来不健康,我不认为他比我更快乐,我甚至不认为他更快乐,但他是世界上最富有的人。

美国外教

Rolen总结:所谓的幸福和成功是由自己所定义的,跟外界无关。


第三次对话(2023年5月30日)

Rolen可以谈谈你正在写的书吗?

I like being creative so right now I’m writing two different books.

The first one is about how to develop um a mobile app on the iOS and the Android platform and two is how to increase your longevity your health Your vitality and your Fitness. I have like 10 other books that I want to publish so I’m going to start really for the rest of my life I’m going to start publishing lots of different books because I want to leave behind a legacy for my children that shows them who I was and also produces a residual income for them so I’m gonna publish a lot of books.

Chat GPT翻译:

我喜欢创造性的工作,所以现在我正在写两本不同的书。

第一本是关于如何在iOS和Android平台上开发移动应用程序,第二本是关于如何增加你的寿命、健康、活力和体能。我还有大约10本其他的书想要出版,所以从现在开始,我打算在余生中开始出版许多不同的书籍,因为我想为我的孩子们留下一个遗产,展示给他们我是谁,同时为他们产生持续的收入,所以我打算出版很多书。

美国外教


美国外教你平常是怎么用Chat GPT的呢

我觉得需要根据某个场景,问一些很具体的问题。不过,提出一个好问题需要一些能力。

我让Chat GPT做的很多事情就是:给它一些数据,让它帮我分析,然后让它告诉我一些基本逻辑,然后我去复制它。我在跟别人学习也是这样,我找很多很厉害的人学习,通过大量的输入,然后试图弄清楚他/她背后的逻辑是什么,然后去模仿对方。而且我发现每次我针对同样的问题,用三种不同的语言提问的时候,得到完全不一样的答案。这是个很有意思的事情。我后来问过从事这方面的朋友,他告诉我是训练的语料质量、数据量不一样,导致结果和答案也不一样。

所以这也在告诉我们,我们的输入会直接影响到我们的输出。(找出最厉害的那帮人,跟他们学习,输入优质的内容;找出最经典的书籍,输入最优质的内容;然后杂糅一起,发生化学和物理上的变化(经过一些实践和思考),就能输出最优质的内容)

Rolen

第四次对话(2023年6月5日)

美国外教人工智能的出现,我好奇你的感受是什么,你是害怕还是激动?

每当我面对未知的东西,我会紧张,会害怕,但同时更多的是激动与兴奋,未知同样也意味着更多的机会。

Rolen


Rolen我在使用AI的时候发现自己慢慢丧失了独立思考能力,你是怎么看待的呢?

Will it be perfect no but it’ll do something that you couldn’t have done in like five years you couldn’t do that in five years you couldn’t go research 20 years worth of genetics and write it like Shakespeare you couldn’t do that.

So it opens up the possibilities now what I’m using it as I’m using it as a base and then I go to it and I say great I don’t like this I don’t I like that I don’t like your style here I hate your I hate that you keep using the same word over and over and I I correct it but what I’m what am I doing I’m making it smarter every time I do that I make it smarter so what I need to do is just take what it gives me and then I need to rewrite it I need to rewrite it my way. So you just make it easier for you to input something on the get something then you’ll realize it.

I told my wife this today I said well chat gpt4 does for me is it gives me a skeleton and then I have to put all the meat on the bone. It gives me a skeleton and I like that because sometimes creating the outline creating the skeleton sometimes that’s the hardest part.

Chat GPT翻译:

会完美吗?不会,但它会做一些你在短短五年内无法完成的事情,你无法在五年内进行20年的遗传学研究并写得像莎士比亚一样。所以它打开了可能性,现在我正在使用它作为基础,然后我会参考它,我会说很好,我不喜欢这个,我不喜欢那个,我不喜欢你在这里的风格,我讨厌你一直重复使用同一个词,然后我会进行修改,但我在做什么呢?每次这样做,我都会让它变得更聪明,所以我需要做的就是接受它给我的东西,然后重新写,我需要用我的方式重新写。所以你只是让输入和获取东西变得更容易,然后你会意识到它的好处。

我今天告诉我的妻子,我说 ChatGPT-4 对我来说就像是给了我一个骨架,然后我需要在骨架上加上所有的肉。它给了我一个骨架,我喜欢这个,因为有时候创造大纲、创造骨架有时候是最困难的部分。

美国外教

第五次对话(2023年9月18日)

Rolen我每天的专注时间只能维持在6-7小时,想要再提高似乎很困难,你能给我这方面的建议吗?

Here’s the key to energy a couple Keys:

  1. Sleep, quality sleep, or sleeping well that means spending as much time as possible in your deepest sleep which is REM sleep.
  2. Stay hydrated, lots of water gotta drink a lot of water. Because your your body is made up of about 70 to 80 percent water your cells are mostly water so if you don’t have enough water in your system your body doesn’t function your brain doesn’t function
  3. Proper nutrition, eating healthy food.
  4. Exercise.
  5. Recreation, have fun do something that you enjoy doing, something not because it’s productive not because you need to do it do something because you just like it I don’t care if it’s playing video games or going to the beach or going for a hike or playing with your dog or it doesn’t matter but do something that you enjoy really just enjoy and don’t do it for any reason other than you just enjoy it.

So if you do those five things I think there were five things if you do those all you will notice a big difference in your energy level.

Chat GPT翻译:

以下是提高精力的一些关键:

  1. 睡眠,质量睡眠,也就是说尽量花更多时间在深度睡眠中,即快速动眼期(REM)睡眠。
  2. 保持水分,多喝水。因为你的身体约占70%到80%的水,你的细胞主要是水分,所以如果你的体内没有足够的水,你的身体和大脑都无法正常运作。
  3. 适当的营养,健康饮食
  4. 运动
  5. 娱乐,享受乐趣,做一些你喜欢做的事情,不因为它有生产力,也不因为你需要做它,而只是因为你喜欢。无论是玩视频游戏、去海滩、远足、和狗玩耍,都无关紧要,只要做一些你真正享受的事情,而不是出于其他原因。

所以如果你做这五件事,我认为是五件事,如果你做了这些,你会注意到你的精力水平有很大的改善。

美国外教


Rolen你谈论到说成功的关键是做正确的事情,然后持续不断地去做,那么对你而言哪些是正确的事情呢?

I’ve told you some of them already sleep, water, eat, exercise, etc.

But another thing that I do is I make sure to tell the people in my life that I care for how much I care for them. It’s important.

And I also make sure that I’m constantly learning I learn every day I learn from you I learn from other students I learn from YouTube I learn from the social media channels I learn through books that I read I learn about everything like I never stop learning and that’s that makes a big difference.

Another thing is that I try and I’m not always successful but I try to be great have an attitude of gratitude. To be gracious, to be thankful even for the things that I don’t like I still try to be grateful for them because sometimes things that we don’t like help us. You know sometimes if something bad happens it teaches us a lesson that we really need to learn. And I always try to learn from my mistakes because we all make mistakes and it’s good to make mistakes because mistakes are learning opportunities so when I make a mistake I don’t feel bad about it. I go I made a mistake time to learn what can I learn from this.

Sometimes I have bad days sometimes I have bad weeks and sometimes I’m positive sometimes I’m negative but that’s okay that’s called being human and I think the more you acknowledge your humanness the better you accept yourself and the more you accept yourself the more you love yourself and the more you love yourself the more successful.

Chat GPT翻译:

我已经告诉过你一些关键,比如睡眠、水、饮食、锻炼等等。

但我做的另一件事是确保告诉我生活中关心的人我有多在意他们。这很重要。

我也确保自己不断学习,我每天都在学习,我从你这里学到东西,从其他学生那里学到东西,从YouTube上学到东西,从社交媒体渠道上学到东西,从我阅读的书籍中学到东西,我学习一切,我从不停止学习,这使得很大的不同。

另一件事是,我试图,虽然不总是成功,但我试图拥有感恩的态度。要感恩,要感激,即使对我不喜欢的事情,我也尽量感激,因为有时我们不喜欢的事情也会帮助我们。有时,如果发生了不好的事情,它会教会我们一些我们真正需要学的东西。而且我总是尽力从自己的错误中吸取教训,因为我们都会犯错,犯错是学习的机会,所以当我犯错时,我不会感到难过,我会说我犯了个错误,是时候学习了,我能从中学到什么?

有时我会度过糟糕的日子,有时甚至是糟糕的一周,有时我会感到积极,有时则会感到消极,但那都没关系,那叫做人之常情。我认为,你越是承认自己的人性,就越能更好地接受自己,而越是接受自己,就越能更多地爱自己,而越是爱自己,就越会取得成功

美国外教


Rolen你提到自己也会碰上糟糕的事情,你能告诉我你是如何面对这些事情的吗?

Be still. When you feel you’re off when you feel things are not working that’s the best thing you can do is stop. Stop everything, go inside, breathe, relax.

And the answer is there. The answer is always there. So it’s just like it’s like it’s like a little meditation but in order to get to that meditation you have to be very still you have to make your mind still you have to make your body still focus on your breathing. Let the answer come to you it’s there the answer is already there you don’t even need to look for it it’s right there.

Because I’ve run plenty of marathons I would always say I welcome the suffering I welcome it because to suffer means I’m alive and to be alive is The Ultimate Gift and when I was competing against others I used to say this is my mantra I can suffer more than you I can suffer more than you and that’s why that’s why even though you may be a better athlete than me even though you may be a faster runner than me I’m still going to beat you and the reason why is because I can suffer more than you watch suffer so I would suffer see suffering scares most people. People start to suffer and they go oh I’m suffering I can’t stand it. Me I go I’m suffering I’m alive I’m alive so there’s there’s a saying you’re never More Alive than when you’re closest to death.

So in my years my 20 plus years of competitive Athletics I used to suffer a lot I used to be in a lot of pain because I ran marathons I rode my bike hundreds of miles I I competed all over the world and I won races and I did well it wasn’t because I was the best athlete because I knew how to suffer I knew how to suffer.

Frankly that’s what Life Is Life Is. Life is suffering sometimes it’s not all you’re not going to just be like I mean it’d be great if we could all be like Buddha right it’d be great if we could just be like Buddha all the time fantastic but we’re not we’re flawed we get angry we get attached we get frustrated we get sad we get depressed we get anxious so no we’re not Buddha but we can at least see Buddha in ourselves. We can see parts of that in ourselves and we can Embrace that we can say all right I’m doing. Am I perfect? no no. Do I expect to be perfect? No. I mean every day I wake up and I go I wonder how I’m going to screw up today and then when you screw up you go oh there it is I knew I’d screw up today there it is but it’s okay because tomorrow I’m gonna be better because I screwed up today.

Chat GPT翻译:

保持宁静。当你感到不对劲,当你感到事情不顺利时,最好的事情就是停下来。停下一切,走进内心,深呼吸,放松

答案就在那里。答案总是在那里。所以这就像是一种小小的冥想,但为了进入那种冥想,你必须非常安静,你必须使自己的思维平静,你必须使身体平静,专注于呼吸。让答案自然而然地出现,它就在那里,答案已经在那里,你甚至不需要去寻找它,它就在那里。

因为我参加过很多马拉松比赛,我常常会说我欢迎痛苦,我欢迎它,因为痛苦意味着我还活着,而活着是最大的礼物。当我与他人竞争时,我会说这是我的口头禅,我可以比你更能忍受,我可以比你更能忍受,这就是为什么,尽管你可能是比我更好的运动员,尽管你可能是比我更快的跑者,但我仍然会打败你的原因,因为我能比你更能忍受,我会忍受,看着我会忍受。忍受会吓到大多数人,人们开始忍受,然后说,哦,我在忍受,我受不了了。而我会说,我在忍受,我还活着,我还活着,所以有一句话说,当你离死亡最近时,你的生命会变得更加活跃。

所以在我20多年的竞技运动生涯中,我经常会忍受很多,我经常会感到疼痛,因为我参加了马拉松比赛,骑自行车骑了数百英里,我在世界各地比赛,我赢得了比赛,表现不错,不是因为我是最好的运动员,而是因为我知道如何忍受,我知道如何忍受。

坦白说,生活就是这样,生活有时就是这样,不是所有时候都像佛陀一样,如果我们都能像佛陀一样就好了,太棒了,如果我们能一直像佛陀一样就太好了,但我们不是,我们有缺陷,我们会生气,我们会依恋,我们会感到沮丧,我们会感到伤心,我们会感到沮丧,我们会感到焦虑,所以不,我们不是佛陀,但我们至少可以在自己身上看到佛陀的一部分,我们可以接纳它,我们可以说,好吧,我正在努力。我完美吗?不,不是的。我期望自己完美吗?不。我每天醒来时都会想,我不知道今天会怎么搞砸,然后当你犯错时,你会说,哦,原来如此,我知道今天我会犯错,就在这里,但没关系,因为明天我会变得更好,因为今天我犯错了。

美国外教

Rolen感慨:当外教跟我说出这番话时,我产生了深深的共鸣,因为我也是这么想的,甚至说的话都是一模一样,我在想是不是我们都曾是马拉松跑者。也正是因为带着这样的心态去面对,才能忍受这项折磨人的运动。


美国外教What do you think I’m curious about your philosophy because you know you seem to be a deep thinker what do you think is the secret to life happiness life success(我很好奇,因为你似乎是一个深思熟虑的人,你认为生活幸福和成功的秘诀是什么?)

我认为从宏观上讲人生是一场体验,我们体验痛苦,体验幸福,体验不可名状的情绪,体验一切我们能够体验的。这就是我为什么我开始去观察自己,给自己的时间记录加上体验尺度,有意识地去做那些给我带来很深体验的事情。而不是花很多时间去做那些体验很糟糕的事情,比如与他人进行一些无谓的争论。

Rolen


美国外教Do you ever find yourself angry? I get that you’re probably pretty happy and pretty Blissful a lot but what is the one negative emotion that you fight the most against most? (你会感到生气吗? 我明白你可能经常感到快乐和幸福,但你最常抵抗的一种负面情绪是什么?)

是的,我很少生气,也很少会有负面情绪。不过当我觉得自己做得不够好的时候,我会自己生自己的气,我会感到很沮丧,因为我有点完美主义倾向。

Rolen


美国外教When you think about your future I don’t know maybe 20 years from now how do you see yourself in 20 years(当你想象自己的未来,也许是20年后,你如何看待自己在20年后?)

我希望自己在二十年后,自己的内心会变得更加的从容和平静。因为我觉得生命就是不断体验,然后不断修炼你的内心的过程。比如,当你遭遇自己不喜欢的人或者事情的时候,你怎么去从容地应对解决,这些都需要长时间的修炼。

Rolen

后记

对于这篇文章中的对话记录的整理和书写,我花了很多的时间和精力在上面,是我第一次花这么长时间在博客文章上。其实,说是对话,但大部分时间都是我在提问,他在回答,他的回答质量很高,总会给人一些启发。

从开始到完成大概持续了整整八个小时(纯时间),这八个小时里我边整理边思考,越发地觉得外教是位非常让人敬佩的人,他想让世界变得更好的心愿(无论他是否处于本心还是随便说说,但至少我被影响了),对工作、生活的理解,面对痛苦时的心态,屡败屡战后的坚决和果敢。。。无论哪个方面都值得我去学习,尤其是当他说出想要世界变好以及他如何身体力行地去做的时候,我感到一阵羞愧。

因为我没有他的那份胸怀,虽然我也想着将来有一天,能够释放自己的能量去影响更多的人,但我更多的可能是出于一种利己之心,哪怕是想着离开世界之前能留下点东西,但我觉得可能也是出于一种毫无用处的虚荣心,这是狭隘的。

但在这今天之后,我想自己的内心已经发生了一些微妙的变化,这种变化是在这八个小时里慢慢发芽的。显然,这八个小时的体验非常之高。

临有所感,记录于2023年秋分之后。


  1. ben 的头像
    ben

    文章比较长,反馈比较多。

    1. 5次对话总时长不过2.5小时就有那么多的高质量内容,除了外教老师一肚子的故事、经验、干货以外,我自己的一个明显感觉是:你的提问质量太高了,而且有些问题是很有逻辑性和连贯性的qestion chain.

    这个让我想到了ChatGPT,我们都知道ChatGPT相当厉害,但如果prompt提的不好,答案也好不到哪里,但如果没有长时期的大量优质输入和大量深度思考,prompt也好不到哪里。

    2. ”通过书写的形式把事情记录,对我而言,是一个重新思考的过程,我对这个过程已经慢慢上瘾了“ 这个也是我去年和今年非常重要的认知和”成瘾“。

    3. 能跟比自己年龄大很多(30-50岁)的人产生深度沟通,其实对年纪较小的一方是非常有价值的。特别是如果对方是一个有故事的人,那就非常有意思了。

    4. 外教老师到了后期都开始对你感兴趣,然后开始提问了。

    5. 花8小时的整理和记录太值得了,而且这个价值会随着时间增加而变大,对你对看到文章的人来说都是那样。

    1. Rolen 的头像

      哈哈,这些反馈对我而言很重要,带给我重新的思考。

      1. 这个观点很有意思,把GPT理解成一个知识渊博的人,但是假如你问的问题都是没什么营养的,比如,“GPT,你饭吃了吗”,“GPT,你是谁”,那它的回答质量也不会很高,比如“俺吃了,你呢?”。“俺是GPT,你是Rolen吗?”

      2. 书写的过程中,脑子会自动进行思考,这个过程很神奇,我开始好奇这背后的原理是什么了

      3. 我很喜欢跟比自己大的人聊天,有好几个忘年交,有些大我五十岁,哈哈

      4. 哈哈,后面都是外教老师问我比较多,他估计被我问烦了 :)

      5. 88大发 :)

  2. anonymity 的头像
    anonymity

    感谢博主能分享这些优质的内容

    1. Rolen 的头像

      Hi 谢谢你的关注:)

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