什么是正确的事情?


有句话,我听很多人说过。即,正确的事情重复做

每当有人跟我说句话的时候,我就在想什么是正确的事情?我对此的理解是符合自然规律的事情,类似道层面的事情,比如水满则溢,物极必反等等。


美国成功企业家,七个孩子父亲眼中的正确的事情

之前我问过我的外教同样的问题,他的回答是:

I’ve told you some of them already sleep, water, eat, exercise, etc.

But another thing that I do is I make sure to tell the people in my life that I care for how much I care for them. It’s important.

And I also make sure that I’m constantly learning I learn every day I learn from you I learn from other students I learn from YouTube I learn from the social media channels I learn through books that I read I learn about everything like I never stop learning and that’s that makes a big difference.

Another thing is that I try and I’m not always successful but I try to be great have an attitude of gratitude. To be gracious, to be thankful even for the things that I don’t like I still try to be grateful for them because sometimes things that we don’t like help us. You know sometimes if something bad happens it teaches us a lesson that we really need to learn. And I always try to learn from my mistakes because we all make mistakes and it’s good to make mistakes because mistakes are learning opportunities so when I make a mistake I don’t feel bad about it. I go I made a mistake time to learn what can I learn from this.

Sometimes I have bad days sometimes I have bad weeks and sometimes I’m positive sometimes I’m negative but that’s okay that’s called being human and I think the more you acknowledge your humanness the better you accept yourself and the more you accept yourself the more you love yourself and the more you love yourself the more successful.

Chat GPT翻译:

我已经告诉过你一些关键,比如睡眠、水、饮食、锻炼等等。

但我做的另一件事是确保告诉我生活中关心的人我有多在意他们。这很重要。

我也确保自己不断学习,我每天都在学习,我从你这里学到东西,从其他学生那里学到东西,从YouTube上学到东西,从社交媒体渠道上学到东西,从我阅读的书籍中学到东西,我学习一切,我从不停止学习,这使得很大的不同。

另一件事是,我试图,虽然不总是成功,但我试图拥有感恩的态度。要感恩,要感激,即使对我不喜欢的事情,我也尽量感激,因为有时我们不喜欢的事情也会帮助我们。有时,如果发生了不好的事情,它会教会我们一些我们真正需要学的东西。而且我总是尽力从自己的错误中吸取教训,因为我们都会犯错,犯错是学习的机会,所以当我犯错时,我不会感到难过,我会说我犯了个错误,是时候学习了,我能从中学到什么?

有时我会度过糟糕的日子,有时甚至是糟糕的一周,有时我会感到积极,有时则会感到消极,但那都没关系,那叫做人之常情。我认为,你越是承认自己的人性,就越能更好地接受自己,而越是接受自己,就越能更多地爱自己,而越是爱自己,就越会取得成功

美国人,65后。拥有多重身份,七个孩子的父亲,经营30+企业,退役运动员,四十多年的营销经验

从结论来说,对我的这位外教而言,根据他的经验,他眼中正确的事情是:

  1. 保持充足的睡眠
  2. 补水
  3. 吃健康的食物
  4. 保持锻炼
  5. 保持学习的习惯
  6. 告诉生活中关心的人自己有多在意他们
  7. 感恩
  8. 理解人性,接纳自己


艺术家,人生导师,健康治疗师眼中的正确的事情

昨天,又问了另外一个外教,她的回答是:

wow that’s such a difficult question the right things right thing means for me the ring is the reading and be real and uh try to live in the moment yeah live in the moment and something like that okay let me think I think for me some of the right things can maybe be accept whatever is busy happening right and always try to uplift never try never break down always try to build up instead of breaking down and I think self-awareness and self-control are very important and valuable yeah like for example um being able to do something new and do it consistently oh do and not just give up because you feel like you’re being held back you know that consistency and self-control is very very important I think we’re learning it um patience patience is a virtue yeah I think [Music] so yeah I think treat people the way you want to be treated treat the people you want to treat what what what treat people in the way that you want to be treated.

哇,这是一个相当复杂的问题,对我来说正确的事情意味着阅读保持真实,努力活在当下,尽量活在当下之中。嗯,活在当下之中之类的。

让我想想,我认为对我来说一些正确的事情可能是接受目前正在发生的一切,始终努力积极向上,永远不要试图打倒别人,而是始终努力建设。我认为自我意识和自我控制非常重要和宝贵,比如,能够尝试做一些新事物并保持持续性,而不仅仅是因为感觉受到阻碍就放弃。那种持续性和自我控制是非常非常重要的。我认为学会耐心,耐心是一种美德。嗯,我认为对人们要像你希望被对待一样对待他们

南非人,彩绘玻璃艺术家,人生导师,健康美容治疗师

总的而言,她眼中的正确的事情是:

  1. 阅读
  2. 保持真实
  3. 活在当下
  4. 接受已经发生的
  5. 积极向上
  6. 不否定他人而是鼓励他人
  7. 尝试新事物,持续下去,不要遇到困难就放弃
  8. 学会耐心
  9. 待人如己


网球教练,连续创业者,人生导师眼中的正确的事情

我的网球教练已经七十五岁了,但他仍旧活力满满,所以我很好奇他眼中的正确的事情是什么。

that’s quite interesting well I mean I’m very happy that I do sport I’m very happy that I’ve owned my own business more or less all my life I’m very happy that um I take certain risks in my life um I try and sometimes fail but I’m I don’t feel I failed because I’ve tried and done my best and if it’s not good enough there’s nothing I can do about it at least I tried so I what I always do is I always try I never accept no for an answer from anybody the first time always asking for the second and third time I never accept no straight away never so um yep that and uh there have been many good things in my life and I think that being self-employed um has given me a lot of self-satisfaction because I have worked for a big Corporation when I first left school and um it was my ambition to work for myself no matter what it was I did it was a very big ambition of mine so because I felt that even though I may get less money time is valuable and time is my own when I’m self-employed yeah I dictate how much work I put in even though I may put in more work than if I were were an employee I still feel that I’m too much of an individual than to go and join um a corporation and being one of a team um it that doesn’t appeal to me at all I just find that doesn’t appeal to my nature so going alone and setting up my own businesses um was a big risk at the time but it it it it succeeded to a point I mean I’m not a I’m I’m not a Bill Gates you know I’m not U um anything aspiring to even remotely that but um I get satisfaction out of out of knowing that everything that I’ve had in my life I’ve worked very hard for myself and paid for it so yeah I think those are probably my and and the fact that I adapt very well to different set of circumstances yeah whatever challenges I’m given it can be quite diverse I tend to deal with the challenges very well actually and so being adaptable me being adaptable where I live what I do um are um I I definitely am adaptable very well I adapt very quickly to different set of circumstances yeah I’m very lucky with that actually yeah um yeah and I think that I’ve had three children so I’m very happy about that as well you know they’re great children two girls and a boy and um I have had failings but everybody has failings and you know if you don’t try if you don’t have failings it means you haven’t tried hard enough you know because everyone has failure at some point in their lives what you don’t want is having failure in every aspect of your life but you’ve got to accept that certain aspects of your life you’re going to fail in and I failed him because I’ve had two divorces and numerous relationships blah blah blah and I if I had my time again would I do it differently well possibly I’m I’m not sure about that but I would only say

possibly because I didn’t particularly enjoy um being responsible to an individual person I didn’t want to report to anybody the only person I wanted to report to at the end of the day was myself not anyone else especially as it there was a good chance that who I’m reporting to I didn’t respect so I that that’s no good I don’t want to work for a company you I gained a bit of experience by doing so but that was not my ambition so really so it’s a good questions to ask actually and I think that um overall I done quite well in my life and that there have been turns and twists that could have been done a bit better I believe but we are not we’re not we’re human beings you know we we make mistakes sometimes along the way you know.

Chat GPT 翻译

这很有趣,我很高兴我做运动,很高兴我几乎一辈子都自己经营生意。我很高兴,我在生活中冒了一些风险,我尝试过,有时失败了,但我不觉得自己失败了,因为我尽力了,如果那还不够好,我也无能为力,至少我尝试过。所以我总是尝试,我从不第一次就接受别人的拒绝,总是要求第二次和第三次,我从不直接接受拒绝。

所以,是的,我的生活中有很多美好的事情,我认为自雇给了我很多自我满足感,因为我刚离开学校时为一家大公司工作过,我的雄心壮志就是无论做什么都要为自己工作。这是我一个很大的雄心壮志,因为我觉得即使可能挣得少,时间很宝贵,当我自雇时时间是属于我自己的。

是的,我决定自己要投入多少工作,即使我可能投入的工作比作为员工时还要多,我仍然觉得我太有个性了,不能去加入一家公司,成为团队的一员。这对我一点吸引力都没有,我发现这根本不符合我的性格。所以,独自一人创业,当时是一个很大的风险,但它成功了,到某种程度。

我的意思是,我不是比尔·盖茨,我不是远大的梦想家,但是,我从知道我生活中的一切都是我自己努力工作得来的中获得满足。所以,我认为那可能是我的一些特点,还有我能很好地适应不同的环境。不管我面临的挑战有多么多样,我都能很好地应对。所以我适应性很强,无论我住在哪里,做什么,我都能很快适应不同的环境。我对此其实很幸运。是的,我认为我有三个孩子,所以我也很高兴,他们是很棒的孩子,两个女儿和一个儿子。我也有失败,但每个人都有失败,如果你不尝试,就不会失败,这意味着你还不够努力,因为每个人的生活中总会有失败的时候。你不希望你生活的每个方面都失败,但你得接受在某些方面你会失败,我失败了,因为我有过两次离婚和多次关系,等等。

如果我能重来,我会不会做得不一样?可能吧,我不确定。我只能说可能,因为我特别不喜欢对一个人负责,我不想向任何人报告,我想要报告的唯一一个人就是我自己,而不是别人,特别是如果我报告的对象我不尊重的话。

所以,我不想为一家公司工作,虽然这样做我获得了一些经验,但那并不是我的志向。所以这确实是个好问题,我认为总的来说,我一生中做得还不错,虽然有些转折和曲折本可以做得更好,但我们是人,我们有时会犯错误,但你对你的生活和你所取得的

英国人,网球教练,人生导师,连续创业者

总而言之,他眼中的正确的事情便是:

  1. 勇于尝试和承担风险
  2. 为自己工作
  3. 接受并学习失败


我眼中的正确事情

  1. 不过度,物极必反
  2. 阅读
  3. 积极主动
  4. 运动
  5. 写作
  6. 保持乐观(宁愿错误的乐观,也不要正确的悲观) 保持平的心态
  7. 赞美、鼓励他人
  8. 不做无谓的争论(跟三观不合的人)
  9. 活在当下
  10. 累了就休息,不勉强自己
  11. 努力保持真实、真诚
  12. 不竭尽全力,不到最后一刻,不轻言放弃
  13. 保持笑容
  14. 接纳自己的不完美
  15. 先完成,再完美
  16. 不随意评价他人
  17. 情绪不稳定的情况下,不做决定
  18. 相信相信的力量,不给自身设限
  19. 远离垃圾的人与事,不内耗
  20. 改变自己能改变的,接受无法改变的
  21. 接受人来人往,世事无常的变化
  22. 珍惜值得你去付出的人,并主动付出
  23. 保持学习的习惯
  24. 先整体,再具体;先宏观,再微观
  25. 不局限于某个领域,多去接触新事物,不同的人
  26. 其它


  1. Lance 的头像

    我最近领悟到的一个正确的事就是要追寻内心的平静和幸福,而不是看到别人做什么自己就去做什么。

    1. Rolen 的头像

      嘿嘿 看到你这个评论 让我想起了赫尔曼黑塞的《悉达多》这些作品,都是找寻自己内心过程的作品

      1. Lance 的头像

        哈哈 是的 外在的很多东西我们都是被灌输要去追求 但是还是找到自己内心的最爱是最舒服的

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